Gents, have you found yourself on a date and wonder why the date has gone bad? Maybe you were on a date and you thought everything was going well but you underestimated how putting a whole bottle of ketchup on the fries you were sharing would gross her out! (True Story!) Then you don’t hear from the person again or you were GHOSTED? Is this because there are dating mistakes being made?
Well, unfortunately, as much as we like to blame women for bad dates when it’s your breath that stinks, there’s a good chance that it is you. Yes… YOU! We are going to talk about some bad date stories and 10 dating mistakes men make on these dates and, of course, how to fix them. Let’s get started!
DATING MISTAKES GALORE!
I came across a few articles on Reddit dealing with dating mistakes. It’s easy to know as a man what kinds of things that we go through on dates; especially guys who genuinely want to meet a good woman. However, the more I read I started to see bad dating mistakes articles involving women going on dates with men. I wanted to explore this more.
There were a few things that I saw that I’ve been guilty of when I was younger. I didn’t see too much of a problem with that. However, the more I read, I noticed a few disturbing patterns. I argue with my daughter all the time about dating but I always think of it from my dating experiences and how I’ve tried to have good dates! As I read the stories though, Gents, made me know that we need to talk about some of these things. Remember, this advice is to help you be a bit better on dates and to help you improve as a man.
MISTAKE #1
I asked a question on Facebook the other day. “Do women like confident men?”. Shout out to the “Purple Goddess” for responding to the question. She answers, “We love a confident yet humble man. There’s a thin line between confident and cocky.” I agree.
If you go on a date with no confidence, then it is a lady parts killer. Gents, confidence comes from being ok with yourself. If you have insecurities, you can fake them for a while, but they will always come out. Or you can be like these little boys who make dating mistakes, like number 10, to get women because of their insecurities and because of their lack of morals. Get yourself together before you start dating.
MISTAKE #2
In a lot of the stories I read, the guys were just clueless about reading signs! Gents, even I have misread signs but the signs that these guys missed are dating mistakes that tell me they are new to the game! If you can’t read signs, then maybe you are not ready to date! The signs in the articles are signs that could have got a couple of these guys hemmed up or worse!
In another story, which given today’s environment, was hard for me to read. The girl states that she doesn’t want to hook up. However, he gets her to just make out. She was fine with that. He got her pants down but she is still saying she doesn’t want to do anything. When he… starts pulling things out, she gets out of there because he doesn’t know when to stop.
This story had me uncomfortable. Listen, I know that we as men have been taught in the past that when a girl says “No” she really means, “Yes”. That’s not what “No” means. You guys would do well to not cross that line because not reading the signs, in this case, could have got this young man in trouble. And worse, she now is going to be really uncomfortable on future dates and may never fully trust a guy again. We can bash women for their questionable feelings about past bad choices on dates but we also must realize that it takes two to tangle and most definitely “No means NO”!
MISTAKE #3
I’m not going to stay on this one too long because it has to do with the previous dating mistakes. However, moving in too close before you have the signs to do so, kissing a girl without her permission (one guy got a girl’s cheek because she turned her head but then he forced a wet, nasty kiss on the lips), invading someone’s space, like the one guy taking things too far when she clearly said she didn’t want to do something a number of times, etc. If you guys don’t control yourselves, you all gonna catch a case; it’s not worth it over one woman who doesn’t want you.
MISTAKE #4
Listen, no one likes a braggart. I mean it’s just annoying. No one wants to really hear that! I was in Mexico and there were a number of these guys everywhere. I would always move to another area of the pool or club to keep my sanity.
These guys love to brag about how much money they have and how awesome they are. Don’t be that guy, Gents. They are constantly making dating mistakes to overcompensate for having no real game. It’s a clear sign that you have insecurities, arrogance, or maybe you are a sociopath. Who knows?
In one story, the guy is rich and the girl he’s on the date with is financially challenged. She didn’t grow up in a rich household. To her, his story made her think that if she had his opportunities, that she could do more with her life than the stupid stuff he did with his parents’ money. It didn’t make him look cool but like an insensitive jerk. Gents, guys like this like to talk about all the money they have because they think it will get them a woman. And the truth is there are women out there who like to hear that and want a guy that has money. If you like that, then brag right ahead. Get yo’ money took!
MISTAKE #5
In one instance, you can talk too much about yourself. In another instance, you can find that you aren’t saying enough. If your life isn’t interesting enough to talk and hold a conversation, it just means that you may not be doing enough with your life.
For example, if the only thing you do is work, school, and video games, then you could be limiting yourself in what you can talk confidently about. If you run out of things to say about you, what you feel, think, and believe, then maybe start asking questions about your date. Instead of just asking about stupid things like, “What do you watch on Netflix?”, try to probe and find out more about her. Ask her things that you would find important in a person you would actually date. That way, if the relationship blossoms, you weed out red flags early! There is nothing wrong with that because awkward silence is one of many horrible dating mistakes and a date killer!
MISTAKE #6
Don’t talk about your past too much on your first date! It’s ok to talk about where you were born or where you went to school. But bringing up your exes on your date, that’s a no-no! This is the quickest way to bring up red flags about yourself to your date! So don’t go down a slip and slide of hot sauce after getting rug burn! We don’t like it when they do it, so you don’t make this classic dating mistake!
MISTAKE #7
Sometimes we go on dates with people and they are not who we expect. Maybe they look a little different than what we believed. We can have preconceived notions of what a person looks like than what they are in person. “Different than we believe” is different than them lying about their looks or weight, using an old pic, etc.
If you find this happening to you, and the person is being nice, don’t be rude. You can still try and have a nice time. If you know that you don’t have a full grasp of what the person looks like, then you can also have them meet you in a place that isn’t too formal for a first date. That way, you aren’t stuck if you feel you want to leave. But don’t ghost them, yell or be rude.
The reason I say don’t be rude because what goes around comes around. Some guys also have a high opinion of themselves that they think that they want a hot girl to like them, yet they make no attempt to improve themselves for a hot girl to like them.
MISTAKE #8
Listen, your life goals are very important. They should be very important to you. However, when you are getting to know someone, don’t just assume that what you are doing is more important than what they are doing. It can come off as condescending, arrogant, assuming, and in the case of one story, patriarchal. That’s why it’s important to slowly give out information. Dating mistakes where someone is talking about marriage and family stuff on the first date and no one has stated they are looking for long term stuff is just a really good way to ruin your chance with a person.
MISTAKE #9
It’s easy to lose faith, Gents, when a date isn’t going right. However, the best way to recover is to keep showing interest if you are actually still interested. Sometimes, a woman will acknowledge a date is going bad or it went bad, but your effort to make it better or keeping it fun will look like you are putting in the effort which will show her you like her. That’s at least a chance to salvage things. Maybe even text her the next day, “I know that date sucked and I’m sorry but let me make it up to you on “Blah” day.”
At least show you are putting in the effort. What she does with that becomes up to her. Don’t be a sad puppy because things aren’t going your way. Show her that you are resilient. That you are the type of guy to make the best of a bad situation. Sometimes when things are going really bad, a subtle, kind gesture may be all it takes to make her “see” you again.
MISTAKE #10
Lying was one of the biggest dating mistakes I have seen throughout these articles. Little boys who have no real confidence in themselves lie about what they have, what they do, where they live, etc., etc., etc., all to impress women!!! Men, you don’t have to lie to get women, first. Second, if you all would focus on improving yourself, you wouldn’t have to lie because you would be someone you are proud of. I get it. You are looking to get lucky. Stop being led with the brain that really doesn’t count! In the end, it can and will lead you to ruin and empty pockets. I know!!!
So, the last part about lying is that guys, real men, make their intentions known. I would rather tell a woman that I am not looking for a relationship, or I’m looking for something casual, or I’m just looking to have some fun. If she leaves after, so what?! That gives a woman a chance to make the decision for herself. In one story, the guy doesn’t get her clues that she isn’t really interested so he makes his moves and learns that she isn’t trying to make out. He then tells her that he isn’t interested in friendship. I read one story that the woman said she wasn’t interested in hooking up; the guy said he felt the same way. He still pushes himself on her. Had they made their intentions known, they wouldn’t have wasted their time.
CONCLUSION
Gents, these 10 dating mistakes that men make are only a few errors when they go on dates with women. There are many more! These dating mistakes are easy to avoid too.
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If you find that you are having trouble with your dates, make sure you check yourself and come back and read this article again! Live your best life!